GUEST BLOG BY NOGIE KING – LIFE COACH FOR RESET RETREAT, 2015
In our hurly-burly, busy lives, we are often overwhelmed with too many choices. Just making a decision can be complicated.
Often, we end up making choices based on immediate gratification that lead to longer-term suffering or dissatisfaction. We may think we are making a reasonable, logical choice only to find out later that we have ignored the things that really matter to us.
So how do we know if we are making good choices? Or more specifically, how can we make choices that are in alignment with our deepest, authentic desires? How do we make choices that serve us – now and later?
We cannot simply rely on thinking harder – which is what most of us try to do. Our brain is brilliantly creative and designed for making up stories. It will feed us a story line to fit any situation if we let it. So brains can be unreliable when it comes to making a choice about anything that matters.
What else can we consider? Our bodies. The sensations in our bodies never lie. These are our Soul’s way of communicating with us in this physical reality. When we learn the skills necessary to read these messages, making powerful choices becomes a lot easier!
What are sensations? They are the actual physical sensations that we feel. Not emotions and not made up labels for what we are sensing – but the raw sensations themselves. For instance, if you have had a disappointment and I ask what sensations you are feeling, you will likely answer something like:
- I feel disappointed
- I am heartbroken
- I am frustrated
- I feel really blue
- I am sad
None of those are a sensation!
When I ask you to notice what you actually feel in your body at that moment, you will start to realize that you feel heavy, like the air has been sucked out of your lungs, or feel tears in your eyes and dripping down your face, or you feel like there is a weight on your back and your feet feel heavy like cement. These are sensations.
The more we can observe our sensations before giving them an emotional label and before our brain has created a story about them, the more likely we are to be able to shift the energy behind them. If we want to reset the negative beliefs and painful patterns in our lives, we are going to need tools with which to do that effectively.
I have found that simply noticing these sensations is the fastest and most powerful way to rewrite the script. It is not necessary to go into any stories of why we have certain beliefs or who is to blame for the results in our lives. By observing the sensations in our body, we can easily and effectively live in the moment and create a reality that we consciously choose.
Next time you are faced with a decision (big or tiny), take a moment to notice the physical sensations in your own body. Ask yourself if what you are feeling is tension, relaxation or expansion? All sensations fall into one of three categories. If the answer is tension, then usually that is not the right path for you – at that moment. You can always ask again later.
Simply ask your body what you want to do. Then listen. It will always tell you what direction to go. Let go of your preconceived notions about what you should do, and simply listen to your inner wisdom. FEEL it in your body, rather than letting your head tell you. The more you practice observing the somatic messages right there in your own body, the better you will become at utilizing the information – for your good and for everyone else around you.
Next time someone says to you that life is a choice, remember that the greater your level of awareness about your own energy is, the better chance you have of making a choice that is in sync with your empowered self.
About Nogie King
Nogie founded Sympatico Coaching in 1996 and is an author and speaker. She is the creator of Camp Camelot – a weekend summer camp getaway for Not-So-Grown-Ups, and managed the popular “Reimagining Ourselves: A Transformational Retreat for Women” at a holistic retreat center. Get to know Nogie on her website and Facebook.