Vulnerability is _________?
Did you fill in the blank with a positive or negative word? Statistically most of you chose a negative word. Why? Why is being vulnerable considered negative? A weakness to be shamed and feared?
If you’re like me, even mentioning the word makes you shudder and scowl.
Vulnerable: capable of being physically or emotionally wounded, open to attack or damage, assailable
Ah! No wonder we are shivering in our stilettos! What a terrible and scary definition. Well, I’ve had enough of that… let’s take “vulnerable” back!
The way I see it, being vulnerable is amazing. It is necessary to live a joyous, spectacular and full life. Every day I try to become more vulnerable.
As written in Daring Greatly, “love is an intense form of vulnerability.” So how can we be open to love if we are not capable of being vulnerable?
We are not the only ones talking about vulnerability. A TED Talk entitled “The Power of Vulnerability” had over 17 million views. 17 million!!! Brene Brown has amassed a wealth of knowledge and research on the subject, and I encourage you to reflect on her words of wisdom.
Explore being vulnerable and remember to:
- Have the courage to be imperfect
- Be compassionate with yourself
- Understand that what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful
- Learn that vulnerability is the key to connection with yourself and others
Ways to practice being vulnerable:
- Let go of judgement, and replace it with an affirmation. “I love and accept myself just as I am.” When you refuse to judge yourself, it is impossible for others to sit in judgement of you. Your truth and acceptance are powerful.
- Let go of your reservations, and replace with openness. Your past may have been difficult but your future doesn’t have to be. Open yourself to new experiences and forgive the past to allow vulnerability and the love and joy that accompany it into your life.
- Let go of your projected image, replace with the authentic YOU. Let yourself be seen and know that you are worth loving! Find your inner peace and calm when you release the expectations of others and follow your own path.
Natalie’s Suggested List:
“The Power of Vulnerability” by Brene Brown… watch her being vulnerable!
“Can You be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable?” by Pamela Madsen… read her suggestions.